Marriage

Two tweets by Alain de Botton (@alaindebotton):

* Society had to stop caring whether we're married to reveal that our motives for marriage are far weirder than social pressure. 

* Perhaps we get married in the hope we'll never have to suffer because of love again.

Comments

We don't need to know that marriage hides all sorts of insecurities, just look at people who near 30 who aren't married (or younger in some cultures) and all the fuss they make about it.

How society draws 'spinsters' is a reason for this, but does it run deeper than that? I want to say that it's the last hold of power the Church has, at least in the UK where the gov't licenses the Church to take care of all that. There's a TED video that talks about married people living longer, being happier, earning more, etc., but I have always wondered if that's because of the way married people are treated as compared to singletons rather than any inherent benefit that comes with marriage.

I'm not sure what else to say other than I agree with the idea that Botton puts forward, but I'm sure many people would say it's those who aren't married who are obviously weird.

Maybe I'll use them in class and see what comes out of it.
Sorry, I didn't reply to that very well. I want to say that I don't think society has stopped caring. It might show indifference, but like I said above, I think there are far deeper things at work which shows that society is tilted in favour of people who are married.

And as for suffering because of love again, I think it's far more likely that we're only happy for the attention and flattered by the prospect of commitment rather than idea that this will end any sort of suffering.
Awais Aftab said…
@ Raul Pope Farguell

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!