Dependence

Despite possessing a lot of modern, liberal and radical ideas, most young people of our society are unable to bring a significant change in their own lives. It seems to me that economic dependence is one of the key factors behind it. Our youth depends too much on their parents for support, even up to the age of mid-twenties. There are no adequate job opportunities for the youth, jobs that would pay enough for a person to live on his own. Hence, they are forced to depend on their parents. With economic dependence comes social dependence: young people are forced to live within the limits of the lifestyle approved by their parents. And by the time they begin to earn enough, it is too late. For girls, the situation is even more constrained because while they are studying they are dependent on their parents, and after that they are hurriedly married off (too much economic burden for the parents?), and then they become dependent on their in-laws, and have to adapt to their lifestyle, regardless of what their own views are in the matter. The situation is lamentable, but hey, what can i do... i am dependent like everyone else. This society needs economic stability before we can expect any social change to come.

Comments

M. Umer Toor said…
Indeed, if one wishes to live freely, he must borrow less.
Saadia said…
Dependence may be a factor, but it is only one factor. Our youth are fond of radical views because they are fashionable. When I was at university, every other student claimed to be a socialist. I doubt that any of them had ever read 'The Communist Manifesto', and many probably might not even have heard of it. I personally think that their decadence as thinking, intelligent beings, capable of bringing about positive changes within themselves is, because they have lost the love for reading and research. There are, unfortunately, too many distractions now (TV, video-games, gadgetry etc.).
misspecs said…
I'd totally agree with you here. Financial dependence is a major part of what shapes our life.

I'd never realized how much so till some people who live abroad kept on asking me why I don't do something about my situation. I mean, if my parents decide not to give me food tomorrow, there's not a single thing I can do about it, can i?
Abdullah Shahid said…
I couldn't agree more and I think that economic dependence is the only key factor. I've been thinking about it too. There's no way youth can make their own decisions as long as they are dependent on their parents financially. And true, when they become independent time passes out. Specially the medical students :(
Badar Ahmed said…
Very thought provoking post. It's very different in developed world where young people are far less dependent.
I guess it can be partly solved if companies in Pakistan try out a model for giving out more paid internships & part time jobs, whereby students can work with there studies.
Abdul Sami said…
parents are a secret leech who train and educate u so that someday u will grow up and return the favour...

don't beleev me ? dig into the millions of 'kia issi din k lyay paal pos k barra kia tha' dialogues...

that aside... money is the latest way to 'control' people.. not jus kids... everybody around teh world is bound by it... some more... others less...
F. said…
There is a cultural model that has been built and will be sustained in this part of the world for quite some time to come; I remember reading a Time magazine report about the hiring practices of MNCs in India. Apparently, they have been modified along the lines of "Please the parents, persuade the kid." Such measures ensure even with a rapidly changing economic set up, the power parents wield over their [adult, technically financially well-off] offspring is not likely to diminish by much. If any change does come, it will have to come ironically (or perhaps befittingly ) from the section of society most underprivileged.

On a side note, given the sociopolitical environment, power over their offspring is the most power many people here have in their entire lives. They control you because they know they cannot control anything else.
Self-actualization through oppression. Interesting ethical and psychological implications.
Think Tank said…
hi awais ..i completely lost ur bloggy when i updated my template...i think d indian society is made like that :(