Live

Sometimes, living is the hardest thing to do. Not living is easy. There are so many ways to do it: fear, hiding, guilt, addiction, mauvaise foi. Life spent in these is a life not lived. They eat out you from inside until you are a hollow puppet, a mask without a face. Just look at us. We are afraid of living, because it can get painful, but this pain is a sign that you are alive. And if you can feel pain, you can also feel happiness and joy. But if you run away from living, you'll become numb, capable of neither. Don't hide behind your mistakes, don't live in the fear of loss, don't dwell in the terror of the past, don't nurture your guilt until it suffocates you and the people around you, don't let others decide what you want with your life.

Live. It may be the bravest thing you would ever do.

Comments

Qasim Aziz said…
And i'm hardly surprised how difficult living is.
Kishore said…
Hey..

This is a great post! Perhaps the best among your smaller ones, Awais..
Uni said…
:) Yes.. this is a good one!

But you do realize how statements like these can wreak havoc in society ..

" don't let others decide what you want with your life." ...

Why do I say that? Because this statement actully encourages people to "follow their own laws" ..:) Pretty chaotic eh!
Awais said…
Thank you :)

@ Uni

As long as a matter is related to a person's personal life, and not related to society as such, i believe it is the person's decision what he/she should do about it.

If the society begins to invade into a person's personal matters, then it is the society's fault. And our society particularly tends to cross the line again and again. People think that they have a right to meddle into other people's lives, they think they can get to decide what the other person should do in life, or what the other person should consider right or wrong.

Society matters, yes, but not at the cost of individuality.
Qasim Aziz said…
"As long as a matter is related to a person's personal life, and not related to society as such, i believe it is the person's decision what he/she should do about it."

You reminded me of J.S.Mill.:P
That makes you a utilitarian Awais.
Awais said…
@ Qasim

Lolz. Yeah, i am somewhat of a Utilitarian.

I wrote in a earlier post on 'Epilogue to Question of Morality':

"At present, i can only say that i believe in a society that is governed by laws which loosely follow the Utilitarian principle and moral Zeitgeist, and which provides maximum personal liberty to people. I know this is not a satisfactory answer, and it is not immune from objections, but in the absence of any ideal ethical model, this does seem to me to be one of the better options."
Apollo said…
Sometimes to live fully you actually have to have fear at times, feel guilty, hide behind the terrors of your past and sometimes you need to feel numb. For me, if someone doesnt live in the fear of loss, not dwelling in the terror of the past or doesnt nurture his guilt all the time then thats the life i would probably not want to have.
Somehow occasional fears and guilts are successful for living.
Uni said…
[As long as a matter is related to a person's personal life, and not related to society as such]......


Again, my question stands.. Is each and everything you do (personally) .. really NOT related to society?
Awais said…
Despite that fact that our lives invariably have an influence upon other lives, there remains a certain circle of decisions that a person has the right to decide for himself.

Let's say your father wants to marry X. But you don't want to marry X, so you marry Y instead. This decision would probably break your father's heart, but it was your decision to make.

Our decisions have an influence on other people's lives, but it nevertheless remains our right to make those decisions as we see fit.

The matter at hand has to be seen in two perspectives:

1) What are the rights of a person? That is, which decisions are his/her's to make.

2) What ought a person to decide, considering that his decisions have an influence on other people's lives.

Question 2 is tricky, and we don't have any perfect solution to it, but we all have a certain sense of morality, and we all have a sense of what we think to be right and wrong.

Hence, this gives us the right to make the decisions which are our decisions to make according to our own better judgement.

And any society which impinges on these personal rights of an individual is an authoritative, tyrannical, suppressive society, and will do more harm than good.
Uni said…
[Question 2 is tricky, and we don't have any perfect solution to it, but we all have a certain sense of morality, and we all have a sense of what we think to be right and wrong.]

What might be a universal RIGHT, maybe a "personal" wrong for a person... Would you agree that this person should be allowed to do this particular act according to his/her will?

My point simply is, that if there is no authority/controlling factors on our decisions, then aren't we bound to think in infinite different directions..?

And hence create chaos?
Awais said…
There are no universal rights or wrongs. There are no absolute moral principles. There is no moral theory which can tell us what is right in every particular case.

I do not say that there should be complete absence of authority. That would certainly lead to chaos and anarchy. But what i am saying is that the decisions that are about our own lives, we should be the ones who make them, and not someone else. Even if we make a wrong decision, it is our right to make a mistake. And that also makes us responsible for it.

Genuine chaos and anarchy will only be there in case of absence of any political or legal authority. A subject which i am not touching at the moment. Giving individual liberty to people within the confines of state law will bring changes in the society, but it will not bring chaos. I believe it will only make it better.

I think the UN Human Right's charter is a great documentation of human rights. Even though most of these have legal status in our country, many of them are being violated by our society.