A Theory of Romance and Society

It is interesting to observe that the society encourages romance in stories, films, dramas, art and poetry. Such works get a lot of publicity and appreciation. But, in sheer contrast, romance is strongly discouraged in real life. A person is expected to show love in real life through the pale, lifeless institution of marriage, and any criticism is waved away by the stereotypical response that the love between husband and wife is the "true love". But how do these people remain ignorant of their own hypocrisies, because the type of love they appreciate in poetry and art is a radically different kind of love.The explanation is perhaps that the infatuatuous, passionate love is a wild, untamed emotion. It's spontaneous and rebellious; it doesn't obey any rules. In other words, it is disruptive to the fabric of society. It breaks away the strands of social norms. And therefore, not surprisingly, the society discourages this kind of love.But we all have the instinct for this infatuatous love inside us, which needs to be satisfied. And how does the society accomplish that? Through promoting precisely this kind of love in arts, films, dramas. An attempt to fulfull, to live through their suppressed fantasies. [Perhaps this explains the observation that girls are much more interested in romantic literature, while simultaneously being awfully and dreadfully unromantic in real life. The reason is perhaps that they are subjected to a greater degree of social suppression.]

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SP said…
Liked your website .. specially the way you write a quote and then add your comments/views to it ...
Some Posts do not indicate if they are referenced from somewhere or if it is your own 'hypothesis' ..like "A Theory of Romance and Society" ...
Enjoyed it..Keep Writing..
Awais said…
Thanks a lot for your appreciation.

If some thought or idea is written without a reference, usually it is my own hypothesis.
A Theory of Romance and Society is purely a result of my own observation and contemplation.