"It is a Faustian bargain that humanity has to make - without words, there would be a chaos of thoughts and feelings where everything might appear to be in a flux. But with words, we reduce the vastness of experience into manageable cubby holes for ourselves and others to fit oh-so-snugly into."
"[W]ords are an ideal outlet, because they immediately offer a common ground. [...] [But people subscribing to this sort of strategy] also have to give up on the range of disparate and unrelated emotions they might feel, because they need to whittle these all down to one coherent idea. So yes, feelings need to get suppressed, or better yet, processed, because even if they ring true, to continuously unleash them would apparently lead to what is perceived through such a lens as chaos.
The other extreme in this approach of dealing with communication is to hold on to the entire range of emotions, feelings, ideas, thoughts *insert synonymies aplenty* because they offer a wider array of information, and can be understood at a raw, unprocessed, unfiltered form.
Unfortunately, communication of this sort ends up relying only partially on words. Which means that two people communicating using a whole array of levels of communication are rarely going to end up having a coherent, shared platform, or context. [...]
[B]ecause they hold onto the primacy of the feelings over the importance of words, they keep searching for words that never quite fit. And so even though they might have extremely intense connections in the brief moments that the ranges of their emotions find multiple overlaps, they struggle to form extremely loyal bonds that become more important than anything else, because they just can’t have that continued shared context."